My circle of girlfriends is one of my most treasured things. Every since elementary school, when we named a special person our “best friend,” I have been gathering them along the way. I have many “best friends.” There are some friends that I talk to each day and others every ten years or more. I have friends that I only know their first names and others that I practically know every freckle on their face. ( I know that because my childhood girlfriend and I used to count each others freckles to see who had the most!)
The most amazing thing is that I feel like I gain a new friend daily. Being an only child for many years, I have seemingly always been searching for a sibling to share on that intimate level of bonding. As a result, I meet people and right away begin thinking of them as my best friend.
One particular meaningful friendship moment happened twenty plus years ago when my dear friend took my arm while we were walking and told me she loved me and missed me. We had met 10 years prior when we were first married and both living far from home. That summer, she and I became inseparable and would become friends for life. Eventually, we both moved but made the attempt to meet up whenever our paths could cross. I always knew in my heart that she was special but the fact that she took the moment to tell me in words was what sealed the deal. I make sure I tell my friends how special they are to me ever since then. It feels good and I recommend doing so.
A few years ago, I was telling another close girlfriend how frustrated I was about a communication issue with my partner. It was then that she said to me, “That is why you have girlfriends!” It was such a relief to be reminded that we don’t always go to our significant others or family with certain issues…that’s what friends are for!
Whether you have a single confidant or a tribe of women in your life, having a girlfriend is one of the most essential parts of being a woman, I believe. As women we are the communicators, the caretakers and the nurturers and as women, we need those types in our lives ourselves.
Being a woman is an amazing experience and having a girlfriend along side to share and help you navigate the journey makes it all the richer. Find your tribe, latch on to your soul sisters, and be sure to tell them how special they are to you.